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» Do some of the connections in your life feel a little thin? In her groundbreaking work, Vanessa Van Edwards reveals that human connections shouldn’t merely be a pleasant diversion but our most valuable asset for well-being, longevity, and achievement.
Her research exposes the epidemic we’re all suffering from: the empty calories of “level-one conversations.” We float on the surface of interaction, exchanging weather observations and work complaints while missing the nourishment of genuine connection.
The solution? Dive deeper. Van Edwards challenges us to abandon conversational shallows for more meaningful waters.
Rather than asking “How are you?” (to which most of us rarely expect an honest answer), she advocates asking questions that unlock an authentic exchange: “What made you smile today?” “What are you looking forward to?” or the disarmingly simple “What’s your story?”
These gateways to genuine connection transform strangers into allies, colleagues into collaborators, and acquaintances into friends. The science is clear—our success depends not just on what we know but on whom we truly connect with.
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» Winning Words
Deeper connections transform relationships into pathways where trust thrives, conflict becomes opportunity, and authenticity inspires mutual growth.
– DR. DAVID ZIERK
Deep human connection is . . . the purpose and the result of a meaningful life—and it will inspire the most amazing acts of love, generosity, and humanity..
– MELINDA GATES
I define connection as the energy that exists between people when they feel seen, heard, and valued.
– BRENÉ BROWN
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» 3 Key Plays
1. Get Three—Create Three
Using Van Edwards’s three suggestions as inspiration to unlock a deeper connection with others, what are three open-ended questions of your own that you can ask a colleague or friend that won’t elicit a response of “fine” or “good”?
2. The Seven-Day Conversation Upgrade Challenge
Transform one conversation each day for a week. Commit to taking one ordinary interaction—with a barista, colleague, or family member—beyond small talk by asking just one deeper question. On day seven, take note of how slightly different questions can transform everyday exchanges and, equally important, have an impact on your life and the lives of others.
3. The Connection Journal Experiment
Keep a “connection journal” for one week with two simple columns: “Surface Conversations” and “Meaningful Exchanges.” For each significant interaction, record which category the chat fell into and one observation about how it made you feel. Notice patterns in your communication style and emotional responses. This will help you make the abstract concept of “deeper connections” measurable and concrete.
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